It is 9 p.m. on a Monday. My husband and toddler son are in bed and I am up with my newborn, who has slept all day so is now amazingly alert. Everyone in the house has had a stomach bug in the past three days, but I’m the only one pulling all-nighters in the midst of it all. I am the mom, after all.
I have strategically placed everything I need for the next few hours around the recliner-rocker I sit in to nurse my little guy. Unfortunately, he just realized he has a wet diaper and will not nurse until it is changed. No, my child doesn’t need to go to college – we can just give all that money to the folks at Pampers, as he is going through about 15 diapers a day. *Sigh* When I get up, the snacks and cell phone fly off the recliner and onto the floor. So much for being prepared. Once we return to the chair, my son decides that the only thing he wants is to suck on my finger, while being cradled in my other arm. I am basically a prisoner in my own living room, unable to even reach the snacks I thought were so close at hand.
Luckily, I have placed my laptop within reach and am able to at least catch up on a blog post or two from fellow mom bloggers. I almost feel like I am being productive, in a way other than the one that involves keeping a very small human being alive and somewhat content.
The point is, although I am attempting to work, my time is still controlled by the schedule of someone else (luckily, he is really cute). The other point is that, sometimes, we are at a busy season of life, where our priorities have little to do with being the best at our job, our hobbies, or our side hustle. Being our best and feeling accomplished at the end of the day may simply mean our children went to bed happy, having told us they love us before falling asleep. Sometimes it means a little one is snuggled in our arms and our to-do list will have to wait for another day. Right now, I may not be at my most productive, but I am happy. I gain more joy from the happiness and accomplishments of my children than from my own. And while I do strive to work on that ‘side hustle’ (this blog), I am remembering to cheer for each small to-do that does get accomplished, and let the rest go.
Us new moms are often told these early days will be over before we know it. I am really trying to keep that in mind and savor the little moments, even when I can’t reach a snack, am sleep-deprived and feel overwhelmed. My to-do list will still be there tomorrow. And my newborn will be one day closer to growing up.
How do you manage to feel/be productive with very small children at home? Do you even try? Tell me about it in the comments, below. I’ll be sure to read your responses, although it may be during a 3 a.m. feeding!