I’ve spoken before about the fact that it may not always be the right time to pursue certain opportunities at work, that maybe it is isn’t the right season. And that is often true, especially if you have small children at home or other major priorities in your personal life. But maybe there are times when it is the right time, yet you find ways to convince yourself it isn’t. Sometimes you try to talk yourself out of something, simply because you are afraid to try. Or maybe you are busy telling yourself all the reasons why you shouldn’t pursue the opportunity.
Believe me, I love to imagine the (positive) possibilities that come with new ventures, but I often have to talk myself down and determine whether something is realistic. But then there is the part of me that doesn’t know how to differential between what simply isn’t a good idea for me, and what I might be afraid to try due to my own self-doubt. Just as easily (and as quickly) as I can imagine the possibilities, I can also imagine the worst case scenario. And while it is good to thoroughly consider each significant decision we make related to our careers and professional pursuits, sometimes that self-doubt takes over and causes us to underestimate ourselves.
“What if I fail miserably in that new position I’m being offered at work?”
“What if I start an Etsy shop and no one ever buys anything?”
“What if I start a blog and I never have a single reader?”
I’ll let you guess which of these thoughts have bubbled in my own mind.
Here’s the thing. I believe that, as women, we sell ourselves short. Generally, women (and especially moms!) are not inclined to boast about themselves or give themselves credit where credit is due. We minimize our roles in a lot of the day-to-day activities we do. And this can be so detrimental when in a professional setting. So if you feel like you could take on a role at work with more responsibility (and have decided it IS the right season), then give yourself permission to advocate for you. Let others in your organization (or even in your home business) know you are ready to take on the next challenge. If no one is aware of that simple fact, you can’t blame anyone for the stagnancy of your career but yourself.
I will never be someone who gives off an air of being conceited (I hope!), and I’ll probably always feel a bit strange about touting my abilities to others, but I must learn to be my own best advocate. As moms, we certainly know how to fight for those we care the most about – our families. So perhaps we could try doing a little of that for ourselves.
Have you ever regretted listening to the voice of self-doubt? Have you ever ignored it and succeeded despite your doubts?
This post is a top post at Sharing Saturday’s link-up.