My 40th birthday is this month, and although I’m pretty sure my younger self didn’t anticipate having a three-year-old and a baby at this age, I wouldn’t have it any other way. As a way of celebrating, I wanted to hear from ‘older’ moms of little ones; moms who had babies after age 35. I asked them both about what the best part of being an older mom was, and also about what the most surprising part has been. I thought I’d hear the types of responses I initially thought of – like the fact that people assume I’m younger than I am, partially due to the age of my children (which, of course, I don’t mind). But what I learned was that these ladies have much more refined self-awareness, which allows them to handle this whole mom gig while stressing less. Maybe I’m not quite there yet, but I’m learning as I go – just as moms of any age do! Read on to hear from my fellow older moms. And to you younger moms, are you as tired as I am? Because I am certainly blaming that on my age.
“I have found that the best part about being an older mom to little ones is that I’m more relaxed than with my first one. And I could hone in on the more important aspects of caring for my child, because I knew already how quickly they would grow. I had learned to not sweat the small stuff, and to appreciate the unique joy of being a mom.
The most surprising thing for me was how much things changed between my pregnancies with my two daughters. Procedures and prenatal testing were different, recommended sleeping positions for infants had changed, etc. And there were so many new products available to make my life as a mom easier!”
Joan Merrell, Starting Over…Again, http://www.jrrmblog.com
“The best part about being an older mom to a little one is that I feel like I have less to prove to the world than I did when I was younger and so I can be more relaxed about who I am and that allows be to be way more relaxed with my daughter and really let her be who she is. I hope she can be comfortable in her own skin her whole life rather than having to learn it later.
There have been so many surprising things it is hard to choose. I guess the biggest thing is how completely having a baby has changed who I am and having to adjust to that and finding all the joy and fun in the new me, though it has taken a while to get to that point.”
Caroline Root, Daily Gaelic, www.gaidhliggachlatha.com
“We had a long road to having our children. I got married later in life, at 36 years old. Most of my friends were married with several children by that time. Then, we had struggles getting pregnant, along with two miscarriages. When we finally had our twins, I was 41. By that point, lots of my friends’ kids were in high school! However, I’ve never taken one day for granted with my boys. They are such a miracle and a blessing, and as an older mom, I don’t think I get upset by the mundane aspects of motherhood or miss my pre-mom life maybe the way someone who had kids at a younger age might. I’ve been able to watch and learn a lot from my family and friends who have had children before we had ours, so I think that has helped, being an older mom. I think that being an older mom to kids helps keep me young, as well!
For me, I think what was most surprising was the maternal instinct. I worried about how flexible I would be as a mom because I was older and maybe more ‘set in my ways’ and used to life a certain way. But our babies were so waited for and so anticipated, it was a fairly easy transition for me. I really loved every stage and part of my child’s development (maybe not the sleep deprivation part, lol) but that wasn’t a huge burden to me, although I was exhausted. That maternal instinct covers a lot of inconveniences. Every time my kids reached a new stage or milestone, I’d say, ‘No, THIS is my favorite stage. No, THIS one is.” I just loved every part of watching them grow. I think just having a front row seat to watching them become little humans has been amazing. Pregnancy and birth are miracles, knowing how much can go wrong at any stage. But it is equally miraculous watching them grow and learn every single skill they have and just become these little humans. I’ve loved it so much and feel very lucky God blessed us, when I know so many others struggle.”
Katie Landry, https://ahundredaffections.com/
Are you an older mom to little ones? Tell me what the best part of being an older mom is, in the comments below.